Moths, Parasites, Replenishment, and Peace: How I’ll Remain Full.

“But sometimes your light attracts moths and your warmth attracts parasites. Protect your space and energy.” – Warsan Shire.

To remain as full as possible through 2019, I’ve created this list. It’s a growing list. I will add to it as I see fit. It applies to all –ships. Respect it.

  1. Ask if I am open to dealing with negativity before putting negativity into my space. Get consent.
  2. If you are not going to replenish what you take, don’t take it. If you ask me to walk 1,000,000 miles to you, I will, but you must rub my feet when I arrive.
  3. If I tell you I don’t have time to hang out, don’t attempt to guilt me into doing it.
  4. Do not ask me to offer you any words of affirmation. If they don’t come organically, they’re not going to come.
  5. Don’t assume you’re an exception (i.e. “why didn’t you respond,” you’ll ask. “I didn’t respond to anyone,” I’ll say. “Well, I’m not everybody. I’m me. Don’t lump me in with everybody,” you’ll say).
  6. Don’t attempt to pressure me into making a plan.
  7. What I do with anything that belongs to me is what I wanted to do.
  8. Don’t ask me to neglect something that’s important to me for something that’s not important at all.
  9. I will only have a conversation once.
  10. I get exhausted and worn out, too.
  11. Nothing of mine, my time, my food, my secrets, requires that I share it with you.
  12. Nothing I say will be passive-aggressive or carry some hidden meaning.
  13. No, I won’t write something about you.
  14. If I spend time giving up solicited and great advice and you don’t take it, please do not ask for more advice.
  15. Do not bring your negativity into my positive space then play the victim when I dismiss you.
  16. I love you, but I cannot sacrifice my inner freedoms for you. I am the most important thing as I have already told you.
  17. Hood proverbs don’t apply to me (i.e. “There’s always time for the things that really matter,” and “don’t make someone an priority if they make you an option.”)
  18. “My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if you’re sweeter than my solitude.” – W.S.
  19. Kill me if I disrupt your peace before asking permission.

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